I texted my ex now I regret it?

I texted my ex saying that I miss him. It was just a spur of the moment thing. I told him I understand why we can't be together anymore but I still miss him regardless. I felt so embarrassed that I deleted the message but he had already seen it. I apologized for sending that message and he said he didn't know how to respond and that I shouldn't feel sorry for sending that. So yeah I feel like shit. I just hate that I'm going through

Op been there where your at with plenty of guys in my youth. I felt like shit as well and then felt stupid when the guy didn't respond. But you did nothing wrong we've all been there.

What caused you to break up with your partner even though the relationship was stable?

What caused you to break up with your partner even though the relationship was stable?

For me he wouldn't make time for me. No matter how much I communicated with him he just wouldn't do it. Would leave me on delivered for days. I finally just gave up.

When you grew up not knowing how to love yourself and now find yourself an adult.

When you grew up not knowing how to love yourself and now find yourself an adult.  

Its hard growing up being bullied by peers and even worse by siblings. Your self-esteem gets weak, and you don’t know how to love yourself. Next thing, you know you're an adult and don’t have a clue how to love yourself. You try relationships but not knowing how to love yourself you get depended on your partner to love you and not love yourself.  

This is why you should first before you even try dating learn to first love yourself. Here are some ways to try loving yourself. 

The phrase "Love yourself for what you are, don't hate yourself for what you aren't. Is a good thing to repeat to yourself. 

Taking yourself out to eat. 

Writing down all the positive things about yourself and knowing that some people don’t have some of the great things that you have about yourself. For example, if you’re a patient person realize that some people aren’t.  

Talk to yourself like you would your best friend. 

Show Gratitude your alive and breathing. 

Read self-help books. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is a great one. 

 

Do things for yourself such as taking care of yourself mentally and physically.  

 

Change your self-talk to positive 

 

Stop comparing yourself to others 

 

When you're met with hard times (a break up for example) be there for yourself like you would a friend, this will defiantly help you love yourself.  

 

Don't worry about others' opinions. You can’t control what they say or think so why let it bother you? 

 

Practice Self-Acceptance 

 

Be self-compassionate to yourself.  

 

 

 

 

Years of going through plenty of breakups in my youth. Here what not to do and what to do instead.

1. Begging won’t change anything. It is best to accept it to show your maturity. 

2. No crying. Instead, just walk away as soon as they say they want a breakup. 

3. No searching for some witch or magic person to bring your ex back. Instead, Google search ways to get through a breakup. 

4. Don’t do anything crazy for example speeding down the road crying like a baby asking why. Instead stay at home and try to process the breakup. 

5. Don’t ask about your ex through friends. Instead keep your ex out of the conversations. 

6. Don’t play sad breakup songs for long. Instead, only play them during the first week to get it all out.  

7. Don’t spend months hoping to get back together. Instead accept the breakup. The sooner you accept the faster you move on. 

8. No stocking them on social media. Instead take a break from social media. 

9. Don’t message or call them. Instead write on a piece of paper what you wish you can say and then burn it. 

10. Don’t go off on them after they break up with you. Instead wish them well and work on you. 

I am now 40 with years of experience with break ups. If I can survive all these break ups so can you guys.

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Never knew at 40

 Never knew being 40 years old, never married, no kids, at a low paying job would be this hard. Most people are married with kids and high paying job but silly me in my youth just chased relationships and didn't save money so now here I am at 40 with a low paying job that I hate. No one is hiring. The ones who are hiring is only PART TIME,  Not having a shoulder to cry on doesn't help so here I am blogging out my vent. 

Times like this I wish I was book smart. Not being smart sucks as an adult. Yeah, I know I am trying everything thats in my control yet it doesn't take away the feelings of being a loser or the feeling of being poor. But its my own fault for being naive in my youth and chasing guys rather than focusing on myself. I didn't know in my youth how much I'd regret it. I thought I'd be married with kids but guess not. Just wish life would let up and give me a break sometimes. I know life is full of test but after a while give me a break. 

How do you focus on yourself?

How do you focus on yourself?

When you been a people pleaser always being there for everyone except yourself and been hurt plenty of times by people you start getting tired of the outside and start focusing on the inside YOU.

Best things to do after a break up

Best things to do after a break up

I been through plenty of breakups in my youth and now. For God sakes please don't sit around waiting on them in denial, don't stare constantly at your phone hoping its them, don't watch their social media, don't call or text from other numbers, and these two important things I wish I'd done. DON'T BEG. KNOW YOUR WORTH. BEGGING JUST MAKES THEM MAD AND FEEL BAD FOR BREAKING UP WITH YOU. AND JUST FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND YOUR HEALING. Trust me going through a breakup is hard really hard alone which is why you need to be your best friend when going through a breakup.