Don’t let your whole world revolve around relationships. Take it from me as I was that girl. All my youth all I cared about was stupid relationships. If I wasn’t in a relationship, I wouldn’t be happy. I had to be in one. I had to be some guy's girl pleasing him in any way I could. I literally abandoned my friends, my family, and my potential future for a guy. I did whatever the guy wanted just to keep him because I was afraid of being alone and what people would think if I wasn’t in a relationship. Then after years of being in and out of relationships and being used and hurt here I am at 40 years old with no relationship finally learning that there is more to life than relationships. I’m also learning more about myself and my potential. I’m coming out of my shell. No more sitting Infront of my computer or phone hoping some guy will text me wanting to take me out. It feels great letting go of relationships and just focusing on myself and my growth.  

I texted my ex now I regret it?

I texted my ex saying that I miss him. It was just a spur of the moment thing. I told him I understand why we can't be together anymore but I still miss him regardless. I felt so embarrassed that I deleted the message but he had already seen it. I apologized for sending that message and he said he didn't know how to respond and that I shouldn't feel sorry for sending that. So yeah I feel like shit. I just hate that I'm going through

Op been there where your at with plenty of guys in my youth. I felt like shit as well and then felt stupid when the guy didn't respond. But you did nothing wrong we've all been there.

What caused you to break up with your partner even though the relationship was stable?

What caused you to break up with your partner even though the relationship was stable?

For me he wouldn't make time for me. No matter how much I communicated with him he just wouldn't do it. Would leave me on delivered for days. I finally just gave up.

When you grew up not knowing how to love yourself and now find yourself an adult.

When you grew up not knowing how to love yourself and now find yourself an adult.  

Its hard growing up being bullied by peers and even worse by siblings. Your self-esteem gets weak, and you don’t know how to love yourself. Next thing, you know you're an adult and don’t have a clue how to love yourself. You try relationships but not knowing how to love yourself you get depended on your partner to love you and not love yourself.  

This is why you should first before you even try dating learn to first love yourself. Here are some ways to try loving yourself. 

The phrase "Love yourself for what you are, don't hate yourself for what you aren't. Is a good thing to repeat to yourself. 

Taking yourself out to eat. 

Writing down all the positive things about yourself and knowing that some people don’t have some of the great things that you have about yourself. For example, if you’re a patient person realize that some people aren’t.  

Talk to yourself like you would your best friend. 

Show Gratitude your alive and breathing. 

Read self-help books. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is a great one. 

 

Do things for yourself such as taking care of yourself mentally and physically.  

 

Change your self-talk to positive 

 

Stop comparing yourself to others 

 

When you're met with hard times (a break up for example) be there for yourself like you would a friend, this will defiantly help you love yourself.  

 

Don't worry about others' opinions. You can’t control what they say or think so why let it bother you? 

 

Practice Self-Acceptance 

 

Be self-compassionate to yourself.  

 

 

 

 

Years of going through plenty of breakups in my youth. Here what not to do and what to do instead.

1. Begging won’t change anything. It is best to accept it to show your maturity. 

2. No crying. Instead, just walk away as soon as they say they want a breakup. 

3. No searching for some witch or magic person to bring your ex back. Instead, Google search ways to get through a breakup. 

4. Don’t do anything crazy for example speeding down the road crying like a baby asking why. Instead stay at home and try to process the breakup. 

5. Don’t ask about your ex through friends. Instead keep your ex out of the conversations. 

6. Don’t play sad breakup songs for long. Instead, only play them during the first week to get it all out.  

7. Don’t spend months hoping to get back together. Instead accept the breakup. The sooner you accept the faster you move on. 

8. No stocking them on social media. Instead take a break from social media. 

9. Don’t message or call them. Instead write on a piece of paper what you wish you can say and then burn it. 

10. Don’t go off on them after they break up with you. Instead wish them well and work on you. 

I am now 40 with years of experience with break ups. If I can survive all these break ups so can you guys.

1