Breakups on my own

I'm soon to be 41 and I've been through plenty of breakups and had to learn on my own. It’s a lot. First, I was shocked. In denial. I didn’t think someone would do this to such a nice person as me. I remember when I broke no contact I’d get put on delivered or left on read. Or put on block. I think the toughest was being left on deliver. Days turned into weeks. Then weeks turned into months and that’s when the denial wore off and reality kicked in. Thats when the tears came and they came hard. Mornings were the worst. Thats when I’d wake up and realize I was back to the living nightmare of a breakup. I’d cry more and more. Having to go to work with this breakup on my mind was hard to fake a smile and pretend that I was ok and not actually dying inside after my heart got ripped out. I can remember going to the bathroom during breaks and crying. I can remember days when I’d stare at my phone wishing they would call me only for my phone to be silent. My friends and family were there to check on me, but it was me who had to ride out the emotions til they were done healing. After the emotions were healed, I had to reset my mind as it was a war zone after a breakup. I started with being mindful of my thoughts and accepting them as well as the emotions as just thoughts and emotions from a breakup, nothing more. I also learned from Stoicism Marcus Aurelius quote, "You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this and you will find your strength.” Honestly, that really helped me. I realized I had no control of my ex breaking up with me and nothing could change that. The only thing I had control of was me. Thats when I started accepting my emotions and resetting my mind. It takes time as I have OCD but I also practiced meditation in my late 20s so that helped ground and center me. Time really does heal if you let it. I also learned acceptance. Accepting things and people I can’t control.