What was your toughest moment and how did you overcome it?

What was your toughest moment and how did you overcome it?

For me. Watching my boyfriend have a heart attack in front of me in the ER when I was 27, next was 2 guys ghosted me only for me to find out threw Facebook that they married their ex and one of them got their ex pregnant while seeing me. But karma came around both those guys ex left and they both came crying to me wanting to get back together which I was nice and talked with them ( such as I'm sorry that happen to you blah blah ) but said no thanks about getting back and wished them well. Last was when a friend and me got to playful and made out on my bday only for the dude to ghost me the next day after because of my ex and his sister getting into an argument. Overcame them all with acceptance, journaling, mindfulness, meditation, walks in nature, and deep breathing workouts. Good times good times lol

What NOT to do after they have ghosted you.

What not to do after they have ghosted you. 

1. Don’t think they accidentally ghosted. They meant it. Yes, people can be cruel and do such. 

2. Don’t sit around waiting thinking crazy thoughts such as, "He/She will get back to me their just busy”. They won’t.  

3. Don’t keep sending txt after txt. It will just annoy them and make them glad they ghosted you. 

4. Don’t obsess about what went wrong. It's not worth your mental health. 

5. Don't keep following them on social media. If they haven’t talked to you in 2 weeks, please unfollow them. 

6. Just because they are active on social media doesn’t mean they will text you because you’re active on social media as well. They won’t. 

7. Don’t keep staring at your phone hoping the next notification is them.  

8. Don’t go online asking psychics if your former friend, date, ex will reappear.  

9. Don’t try and pay a supposed spellcaster online to bring them back.  

10. Don’t let your whole world revolve around this ghosting thing. Accept it and move on.  

What NOT to Do Right After a Breakup (6 Mistakes to Avoid)

What NOT to Do Right After a Breakup (6 Mistakes to Avoid) 

1. Don’t blow their phone up with calls and texts. Go NO CONTACT immediately for your own sake. 

2. Don’t go to their house banging on their door hoping to talk. After a breakup emotions are high and seeing each other would make things worse.  

3. Don’t threaten suicide. That will only show your mental health is in danger. 

4. Don’t post bad things about your ex. Example, “My ex is a jerk” or “She was nothing but a hoe”.  

5. Don’t sit and stare at your phone for hours hoping for a txt or phone call from them. 

6. Don’t pay someone online claiming to be a witch saying they will bring your ex back as they won’t.  

When he says he's interested in you but won't make time

When he says he's interested in you but won't make time please for God's sake don't do what I did.

1. Don't think he'll come around because he won't.

2. His actions never lie.

3. Don't live in the past ( when you first met him and things were great ) as that will keep you stuck.

4. Don't think,"But I invested so much time in him". This is a sunk cost, sometimes called a retrospective cost, refers to an investment already incurred that can't be recovered. 

5. Don't blame yourself. You did everything you could for him.

6. Don't cause unnecessary stress wondering why or what you did wrong. Remember pain is inevitable suffering is optional.

7. Don't sit there staring at your phone hoping he'll call or text. He won't.

Remember if someone is into you their going to make time for you not make excuses. 

Stop putting your ex on a pedestal

Stop looking at your ex with rose-coloured glasses, you may still feel their voice whispering things to you, you may still feel as though they are still part of your life, as though there is hope for you two to be together. NEWSFLASH: THERE ISN'T. The only thing that exists is the here and now, and right now, your ex is not with you, they are no longer a part of your life, they could be with you and help you and be happy with you, but they chose not to because they'd rather have less and see you destroyed than have more and see you happy. It's not about how good or loving or perfect you are, they don't care. It's not enough for them to be successful, they want everyone else to be a failure. They don't care about your success. They want you to fail so that they may feel better about themselves, it's their problem, this has nothing to do with you.
The only thing you should care about. is this:
you are free of their influence, you are no longer under their control. You are free. And as painful and scary it may sound, you are free to make your life whatever you want it to be, and they won't stop you. Make it a good one. Try the things you always wanted to try but thought you couldn't. Plan for the future where you will thrive and not just survive. Look for someone else to fall in love with. Just because someone doesn't appreciate a diamond doesn't mean the diamond is worthless. Likewise, if someone doesn't appreciate you it does not mean that you are worthless, it means that they are stupid.
Enough about the past. Think of your future. You may not feel like it. That means it's not the right future. Think of a different future. Don't stop, keep moving forward, always, no matter what. You are in love with an illusion, NOT with reality. It was never real, because if it was real, they wouldn't have left you and broken your heart, they wouldn't have chosen someone else. You fell in love with them because you thought they are what they aren't, and they never loved you because if they did they would've never left you so easily, I mean, look at how much you are suffering. This is love. And their betrayal? That's simply not it. Sorry. But you need this to heal, trust me on this.

Best way to heal & let go of a break up

 Best way to heal & let go

How did you move on from your ex when you still love them deep down, but forcing yourself to let go because you both aren’t meant to be.

For me  I just took everything one day at a time. I had good days and bad days. What helped me is being aware of my emotions and thoughts and accepting them but not letting them control me. I journaled a lot. Not living in the past instead living in the here and now. With time I healed.

Dont watch those tarot card readings while going through a breakup! They are not real!!

4 years ago I had a bad breakup and got ghosted the day after my bday. Boy, let me tell you I was obsessed with tarot card readings asking if the guy who ghosted me would talk to me again hell I even went and PAID for a reading. Totally not worth it. Don't believe in that crap anymore. Best to accept their gone and focus on yourself and your healing as no one can heal you except yourself.